When Their Mask Falls Off

Namaste, Y'all,
One of the major life lessons for me, and I'm certain, for you, is finding out the true person behind the projected persona. You know, you have a repore with someone or a group, thinking and feeling that the relationship is mutually satisfying and offers some securities, but when in fact the opposite is true. Time will reveal all is a fact (the story “No Longer Human” by Osuma Dazai is a classic example). People can only play a role for so long because they'll eventually run out of the energy necessary to maintain it. This is when the mask of their illusions began to crack and fall away, showing you the truth of who they really are and exactly what you are to them—a desired and destorted reflection. It's heartbreaking to see that authenticity is rare and difficult to find, yet it's frowned upon. They try on personalities like clothing and then wonder why they fail to hold onto long, meaningful partnerships. Kurt Cobain said, “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” In my time on this earthly plain, no words ring louder than these during the past several years. It's been exhausting dealing with people who are afraid of being themselves, mostly due to their toxic childhood environments that cause them  psychosis (a mental health symptom involving a disconnection from reality, characterized by hallucinations, delusions, and disorganized thinking). And their refusal to acknowledge and heal their suffering adds fuel to the destructive fires they set in their relationships. How do you reason with someone who is not really present? You won't, and you can't. Until they choose to get the necessary help to heal themselves, your best course of action is to release them with compassion and move on. 
Love, light, and positive healing vibes,
Terry Perkins


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