Life Lesson - The Cutoff Game

Namaste, Y'all,

A major top five life lesson that has resonated with me over the past couple of years is the importance of setting healthy boundaries, even if they appear harsh to others. Losing your sovereignty within the ever-shifting energetic flow of any type of partnership is a red flag. And being an uber sensitive empath made me the target of abusive sources that were solely out to coopt my personal power and right to exercising my free will. Unfortunately, I discovered this factor late in life, but I have no regrets because I can be of service to those who are also experiencing this (that's why there are no mistakes) and provide my personal healing journey detail to help them heal and correct themselves. So being compassionate about your situation and setting the intention to course correct yourself is paramount. After all is said and done, haven't you suffered enough? Taking your power back involves being proactive in your focus and following your intuition. I learned years ago that self help books and seminars are no match for individual self awareness. There is no blanket way to take responsibility and accountability for yourself; you must find your path and allow it to unfold. If ain't from the heart, don't put it in your cart. You have to be able to sit with yourself and listen to the guidance; pay attention to the signs and symbols your spirit/higher self is showing you. And most importantly, pay attention to your inner dialogue, for it delivers key sources of intelligence for you to glean from. Do you ever pay attention to the amount of negativity you immerse yourself in daily? From the people we interact with to the media, this noise pollution is a big contributor that separates us from our individual perceptions of reality. This is why having regular breaks to cleanse, center, and reset your focus is vital to getting grounded. What we consume must be released, so be careful of the sources you feed your mind with. 

Then there's the cutoff game. You must develop, set, and maintain a strong cutoff game regarding your boundaries. Again, there's no set method, only your intuition (inner realms) to use as your guide. Some will need to ghost, while others have a direct chat with them and go from there, and yet some may require taking a break (long or short) to heal yourself and then reestablish the union with a fresh mindset. Like I said, there is no right way or path apart from yours. You'll know what's best for you by the way you feel when in the company of the subject. If you don't feel calm, rested, and empowered during the time together, your answer is clear. On the flip side, if you're anxious about the invitation to meet or simply chat, this is a red flag to pay attention to. The latter was the intuition hit that I ignored and allowed my ego to win instead. Pay attention to your physical responses when you encounter certain people; it does not lie. You may not find out immediately what the issue is, but you will spare yourself from future pain. The ego has a life of its own and can lead you astray if you're not careful. Being kind is one thing, but placing yourself in harm's way to prove your kindness is another. This is not the way to healing, but allowing others to steal your joy, comfort, and resources in the end. And lastly, don't be afraid to choose you, for it's all you truly have. Don't pace yourself in situations that cause you to diminish your power and deny your authenticity just to belong or make others feel comfortable. Don't! It's better to be alone without the drama-comflama. Life is challenging enough, and deciding to compromise your well-being should never be an option on any table. Own your space and don't apologize for do so. Get your cutt off game on today, y'all. 

Love, light, and happy healing,

Terry Perkins